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(最近寫了很多,因為都拿去投稿了,所以不能放上這兒,可以預見數月後會有一堆被拒登的過期文章忽然在這兒出現…)

**想知為何我要『一年只買廿件衫』, 請到:『一年只買廿件衫』 – 源頭減廢

只剩下兩天了,我應該沒有機會再血拼吧。

以為因為身型改變有機會添新衣,可惜少婦注定做慳妹。兩年前計劃生孩子後買的都是闊袍大袖,又得到同事們的熱烈捐助,孩子出生前只買了三件新內衣、兩條大肚褲、一件很有彈力的大肚衫和兩條產後用束腹帶。孩子出生後沒時間也沒機會外出購物,在家在外都是穿媽媽借給我的衣服──因為夠大,姊姊也送我幾件大碼貨辦,又帶來兩件餵母乳專用的內衣,我想花錢也沒藉口。

一直到坐完月子後十來天我才有機會到附近的商場逛逛。於是立即給自己添新內衣、新羊毛手套,又買了一套三件跟媽媽一模一樣的禦寒防水外套。你可能會覺得我傻,跟媽媽一模一樣不就是大媽們穿的式樣嗎?是的,確實是大媽們穿的式樣。我家兄弟姊妹多,我這次是嬰孩時期後第一次連續幾十天受媽媽的細心照料,自懂事以來從沒跟媽媽如此親近過,這套紫紅色母女裝就當作是一個紀念吧,紀念我跟媽媽一起為小豬作戰的日子。

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附件: 成績單

第一年 第二年 (白金版) 第三年 (白金版) 第四年 (白金版) 第五年 (大肚也繼續-白金版)
毛衣: 3
背心: 2Legging: 2        T-shirt: 2
長褲 : 2
防水大衣 : 1連衣裙: 1手套  : 1圍巾 :  1
熱褲: 1雨衣: 1短袖襯衣: 1內衣褲:11外套: 1

白恤衫: 1

上班襯衣: 2

運動褲: 1

牛仔褲: 1

黑色絲襪褲:4肉色絲襪褲:4魚網絲襪褲:2綠色絲襪褲:1連衣裙: 4

上班襯衣: 3

套頭毛衣: 2

羊毛圍巾: 1

上班外套: 3

團體制服: 2

套裝: 3旗袍: 1薄圍巾: 1連衣裙: 2上班外套: 3

西褲: 2

T-shirt:     1

大衣: 1

內衣褲:5

內衣: 7大肚褲: 2大肚衫: 1

束腹帶: 2

禦寒外套: 3

手套: 2

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我不知道過去一個月自己是怎麼過的。只知道不斷餵奶、不斷吃喝 ─ 即使已經累至毫無胃口、不斷換尿布、不斷進出母嬰健康院及醫院、久不久就一臉眼淚鼻涕 ─ 即使媽媽說坐月子不能掉眼淚不然將來會視力模糊。聽了一大堆秘訣、解釋、建議、質疑…能做的做了,做不到的自然做不了,終於決定放棄。

可能之前解釋得太多:為什麼要餵母乳、母乳跟奶粉的分別……已經不想又再解釋 ─ 什麼我是少數受母乳性黃疸困擾的媽媽、什麼我很快要上班了、什麼我的乳腺似乎特別容易發炎、什麼我就是用電動奶泵泵不出奶只能親身餵而孩子又吃得特別慢每餐要餵最少九十分鐘三小時一次跟本無時間睡吃飯上廁所……醫生護士說我不能讓孩子慢慢吃,難道要我跟才開眼的嬰兒講道理?抑或索性體罰?

小妹不懂得安慰人/自己,卻幸運地遇上一些很體貼的朋友,是以下兩段朋友的話令我一再淚流滿面,卻豁然開朗。如果你跟我一樣,請看:

朋友甲:“I’m childless, so could never know what it is like to take care of a real baby. But, I do know the burden of having to be responsible for the life of another person, one who could not tell you whether you’ve done the right things yet has to bear the consequences of your decisions.”

 

朋友乙: “You are a good mom! Every single mom I know try their very best and that’s all that counts. Being a perfectionist will serve no purpose, I’ve learnt that the hard way.

I know you will never believe me (I didn’t believe it either when people said it to me) but it WILL GET BETTER, I promise. And by then we will meet up and laugh about how it all went.

Don’t doubt yourself, be kind to yourself and allow yourself to be less than perfect, even though if you are anything like me, you’d want to do things exceptionally perfect especially for the little one. The thing is that there is no perfect way to do anything with a newborn, they will cry anyway.

we really really try our very best, even when our own energy is spent, when we are totally derived of sleep, and don’t even have time to use the toilet or shower, we still push ourselves a bit more.  The most important thing is that YOU ARE A GREAT MOM. I’ve not seen you with your son, but I know that already. And you know what? It’s not important that the baby is exclusively breastfed or not, but what more important than that is that he was a mom willing to break her bones just doing what she thinks is perfect for him. He is a very very lucky little boy.

抱抱! (希望朋友們不要介意)

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投稿累事 + 取名字

寫好一首詩紀念我和小豬的第一夜,可是我貪心把該文投到雜誌,要等四個月確定人家不用我才可以放上這兒。老實講, 無咩信心,但很想一試。如上次一樣, 答應小孜媽寫買房記(下), 但因為投稿,搞到過哂氣才放上來,無奈。

不知是否一直叫小豬做小豬,他真的長得像一頭小豬…名字果然不能亂取。如果是個女的,我會為她取名韻騷,韻味的韻,風騷的騷!不讓春風姐姐專美,可惜是個男的。

要睡了, 下回再寫吧!

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